Red Flag or Green Flag: free Valentine's online safety game

What is Red Flag or Green Flag?

Fifteen short chats from dating and friend-finder apps. Swipe each reply: a green flag (healthy and respectful) or a red flag (a warning sign). Every answer names the signal: pressure, love-bombing, moving off the app fast, money requests, ignoring a "no", and their healthy opposites.

Red Flag or Green Flag is a free Valentine's Day online safety game. You read fifteen short chats from made-up dating and friend-finder apps and swipe each reply: a green flag if it's healthy and respectful, a red flag if it's a warning sign.

Every answer names the signal and explains it in a line: pressure to reply, love-bombing, moving off the app fast, asking for money or gift cards, ignoring a "no", secrecy and control, and the healthy opposites, like accepting a no, suggesting a busy public place and backing your safety plan. It's for all ages and any relationship, friendships included.

At a glance

Category

Seasonal

Difficulty

Easy

Play time

2–3 min

Price

Free, in your browser, sign-up optional

How to play

Read the chat

Some cards show what you said first: watch how they handle a "no".

Swipe or tap

Left for a red flag, right for a green flag. Buttons and arrow keys work too.

Three lives

A wrong call costs a life. There's no timer.

Score

100 per right answer, +20 more for each one in a row, up to +80.

Scoring

100 points per right call.

+20 more for each right answer in a row, up to +80.

A wrong call costs one of 3 lives; no timer.

What it trains

Respect for a no

Spot whether a reply accepts your no or pushes past it.

Scam signals

Money, gift cards, investments and endless camera excuses.

Healthy pace

Love-bombing, pressure and secrecy versus a calm, public, at-your-pace start.

Strategy and tips

A no is a full answer

Watch the reply to a no: acceptance is green, pushing or guilt is red.

Money talk is a stop sign

Gift cards, emergencies or "investments" from someone you haven't met: always say no.

Stay on the app

Its report and block tools protect you. Move when you're ready, not when you're rushed.

Meet in public

A busy café, a friend who knows where you are, and an easy way home.

Slow is healthy

Huge feelings on day one feel nice but rush you. Real closeness takes time.

Why play Red Flag or Green Flag?

Warning signs are easier to spot in someone else's chat than in your own. Practising on made-up messages, with a clear reason for each one, builds the instinct to pause, check and talk to someone you trust.

Frequently asked questions